Ways to win your wife’s love

1. Make her feel secure, don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Give sincere Love.
3. Treat her gently, like a fragile vessel.
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
5. Be generous with her.
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart.
7. Avoid anger; be Cool at all times.
8. Look good and smell great for your wife.
9. Don’t be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken.
10. Be a good listener.
11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing.
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, and names she loves to hear.
13. A pleasant surprise.
14. Preserve and guard the tongue.
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings.
16. Give sincere compliments.
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family.
18. Speak of the topic of her interest.
19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is.
20. Give each other gifts.
21. Get rid of routine, surprise her.
22. Have a good opinion of each other.
23. Have good manners, overlook small things, and don’t nitpick.
24. Add a drop of patience, increase during pregnancy, menses.
25. Expect and respect her jealously.
26. Be humble.
27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers.
28. Help at home, with housework.
29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her.
30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you.
31. Remember your wife every time.
32. Leave the past to God, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.
33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, God is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
34. Take Satan as your enemy, not your wife.
35. Put food in your wife’s mouth.
36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect.
37. Show her your smile.
38. Don’t ignore the small things; deal with them before they become big.
39. Avoid being harsh-hearted.
40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking.
41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills.
42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within boundaries.
43. Help her take care of the children.
44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments.
45. Sit down and eat meals together.
46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice.
47. Don’t leave home in anger.
48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home.
49. Encourage each other in worship.
50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you.
51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times.
52. Kiss your wife, foreplay; don’t jump on her like a bull.
53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.
54. Show care for her health and well-being.
55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself.
56. Share your happiness and sadness with her.
57. Have mercy for her weaknesses.
58. Be a firm support for her to lean on.
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal.
60. Have a good intention for her.
61. Cook a dish for her.
62. Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in your home for the two of you to pray at night whenever you can.
63. Women love flowers. Make a trail of them on the floor leading to the gift you made for her.
64. Give her a nice massage when she least expects it.
65. Send your wife a text message out of the blue with a message of love.
66. Send your wife an email without a reason.
67. Go out on a date or a get-away for the weekend in a nice location, preferably without kids.
68. Do something for your wife’s family, whether it is a gift, or a chat with her teen brother who needs mentoring, or whatever. It will get you lots of brownie points.
69. Do not keep reminding and demanding your rights all the time.
70. Shop groceries for her and call her from the store and ask her what she needs for the home, for herself or for her to give to people as gifts.
71. Ask her if she would like to invite her female friends over for ladies only get together and arrange for the dinner.
72. Ask her to send gifts to her parents and siblings.
73. Help her parents pay off debt. Send her poor relatives some money.
74. Write love notes or poems and place them in the book she’s been reading.
75. If she tells you something she had just learned, do not dismiss her or ridicule her effort, instead listen to her and take her word.
76. Plant her kitchen garden with all kind of herbs she needs for cooking.
77. Adopt a kitten for her if she likes.
78. Update her PC or laptop with a new one or get her a new mobile phone.
79. Learn to do a special massage technique and surprise her with your new expertise.
80. Teach your children to respect and honor their mother.
81. Be humorous with her when she makes a mistake in the kitchen (like when she put too much salt or burnt her baking).

How to make your Husband happy

1. Beautiful Reception

After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,

Begin with a good greeting.

Meet him with a cheerful face

Beautify and perfume yourself

Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested

Receive him with loving and yearning sentences

Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.

Beautify and Soften the Voice


3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification.

Take good care of your body and fitness.

Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.

Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape

Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes

Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time However with these things you should avoid excessiveness


Exchange loving phrases with your husband.


4. Satisfaction

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You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job
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You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people
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You should remember that real wealth lies in faith and piety.



5. Indifference to Worldly Things

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You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.
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You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
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Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.

6. Appreciation

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By the saying of the Prophet , the majority of people in Hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
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The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways
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The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: "Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?"

8. Devotion and Loyalty

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In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
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Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

9. Compliance to Him

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In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited
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In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.

10. Pleasing him If he Is Angry

First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger. But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:

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If you were mistaken, then apologize
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If he was mistaken then:
Keep still instead of arguing or
Yield you right or
Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
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If he was angry because of external reasons then:
Keep silent until his anger goes
Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him
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Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened e.g.
1) You should tell me what happened!
2) I must know what made you so angry!
3) You are hiding something, and I have the right to know!

11. Guardianship While he is Absent

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Protect yourself from any prohibited relations
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Keep the secrets of the family, particularly Personal life and things that the husbands don't like other people to know.
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Take care of the house and children.
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Take care of his money and properties
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Refuse people whom he does not like to come over
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Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence

12. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends

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You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.
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You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
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You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife
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Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
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Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home
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Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc...

13. Admirable Jealousy

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Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others disrespecting them, etc…
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You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.

14. Patience and Emotional Support

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Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
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When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, his and your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.
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When facing hardships (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested etc.
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Be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of Paradise.
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When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment.

15. Support in Obedience to Allah

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Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.
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Encourage him to pray at night.
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Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
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16. Good Housekeeping

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Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged
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Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom
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Perfect food (preparation) and prepare healthy foods
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Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing
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Learn how to raise children properly

17. Preservation of Finances and the Family

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Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
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Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
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Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc.

Husband and Wife

A man feared his wife wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he
thought she might need a hearing aid.

Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to
discuss the problem.

The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could
perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.

Here's what you do," said the Doctor, "stand about 40 feet away from her,
and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears
you.

If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and s o on until you get a
response."

That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he washing
the den. He says to himself, "I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what
happens."

Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?"

No response.

So the husband moves to closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from
his wife and repeats, "Honey, what's for dinner?"

Still no response.

Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from
his wife and asks, Honey, what's for dinner?"

Again he gets no response so;

He walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. "Honey, what's
for dinner?"

Again there is no response.

So he walks right up behind her. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
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"James, for the FIFTH time I've said, CHICKEN!"

Moral of the story:

The problem may not be with the other one as we always think,
could be very much within us..!